God is so amazing!!! We met with Kelsey again today and we love her even more now. It’s so exciting to see how God has answered our prayers and her families prayers all at the same time!
Tonights conversation was exactly how I had hoped it would go. Phillip and I were able to talk one on one with Kelsey about so many deep and important subjects.
I love her to death and can’t wait to see how our relationship will grow. I really feel it will become more of a sister type relationship. Now I know some of you are thinking we are crazy to think like that about her and to be so open. But the whole time we have prayed for a baby we have also prayed that we would be able to minister to whoever the mother was. I am so excited that God is going to allow us to be Christ like examples to her.
Sorry this post was not as detailed as the others. But I am tired and we talked for way too long to write it all down. I guess one more thing I can say is to just pray for Kelsey. She is such a sweet smart young girl but she has so much on her plate right now. Pray that God will wrap his arms around her and that she will turn to him for comfort and peace.
Thank you all for praying for everything. I can’t believe it is only 14 days away!!! Who knows… maybe even sooner!!
P.s…. I got to touch her belly!!!! Lane wasn’t moving around but just the fact that I got to feel him was totally incredible!!!!
Monday, October 11, 2010
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
"What is her name again?"
Hahahaa... the reason why I titled this post "What is her name again?" is because that is all my dad asked the whole time I was over there before Kelsey came over!!! I am laughing right now as I write this because any of you who know my dad know that he rarely gets names right!! At the end of the night when everybody was gone my mom looked at me and asked while laughing, "Were you holding your breath while dad prayed?!" And of course my response was "YES!!!!" But just to let you know he did get her name right and her dads name right (bonus) and prayed an amazing prayer!!
So now onto more details of the dinner. Brittany (one of the social workers) got there a little earlier which was good because we could all ask her some questions about the night. One of the questions I asked her was, "What is tonight going to be like and is this pretty common?" Her response, "I have no idea and I've never been to one of these." Well that made us all a little nervous!! But she said that this was great that we were doing this and I was thankful because this whole process that Phillip and I are going through is such a huge part in our life and our families never really had met anyone who has been involved with it.
When Kelsey and her dad came, the kids were all playing in the front yard and all the adults were sitting on the porch talking. Brittany and I walked out to her car and walked up with them and all the introductions started. We sat outside for about an hour and talked. After a couple mins of talking Mikey and Cason had ran outside from the play room and as soon as Mikey went outside he ran up to Kelsey and said, "Hi Kelsey!!!!" and gave her a huge hug. And then ran off!! (I was so excited that he had done that all on his own!!) Kristy and Kelly were swinging on the swing holding Declan and Tripp and then Kelsey, me, and Brittany sat in the chairs closest to them. We talked all about her ride here and then about how she is feeling. At one point, we were talking about her doctors appointment and Brittany asked Kelsey, "Did they say how big they think Lane will be?" Well right when she said that is was like time stopped for me. I couldn't believe she called the baby Lane. In my head I was thinking what is Kelsey going to say? Is it ok she just called him that? Well right after she asked that I looked at Kelsey and she just smiled and said he was going to be average. After my heart when back in rythym I couldn't stop smiling at the fact that even though Kelsey is the one pregnant, that whole time we had been talking about my baby!!!! I loved that feeling!!
We all went inside and had dinner. My dad grilled chicken (which was so AMAZING) and we had so many sides that were melt in your mouth good thanks to my mom, sisters, my mother in law, my father in law (who makes the best homemade ceasar salad), and Phillip's grandma. The rest of the night we just told stories. I asked Kelsey what she was like when she was little and her dad said she was good! It was so nice just to be able to talk to her... not about the adoption but just to get to know her.
While a lot of us were talking around the table, Tracy, ~ (who I forgot to mention. She is the counselor that Kelsey has been meeting with. And long story short, her daughter placed her baby up for adoption through Bethany several years ago.) ~ was in the kitchen talking to my parents and Phillip's mom about open adoptions. I am not sure of all that was said but I am so thankful that she was able to talk to them about it. They have only heard what we have told them. It is nice to hear about something from someone who has been through it.
One thing that I was a little nervous about was the fact that my sisters would be there with their adorable baby boys. I was nervous because I wasn't sure if that was going to make her think about her having a baby. But it ended up being nothing like that... or at least it didn't seem like it. She talked about Declan and Tripp but it didnt' seem difficult for her. I pray that is wasn't.
It was really cool when we were saying goodbye. Kelsey, her dad, Brittany, Phillip and I were all standing out by their car and Brittany ended up saying that Kelsey had mentioned to her about meeting again before the baby. I was so happy when I heard that because I actually had wanted to meet again too but didn't want to sound overbearing. I told her that and Kelsey said, "You can't. You couldn't be overbearing." It is so great that we get along!
My family all hugged them bye and as Kelly was hugging her bye she said, "You already feel like part of the family!" (Later on that night she asked if it was ok to say that!!) I loved that she said that. And I know it had to make Kelsey's day by her saying that. What is great about it is the fact that she does already feel like part of our family. None of us could believe how well she just fit in. When everyone was gone my dad made a comment saying, "I looked in there while everyone was talking at the table and she just fit in." I love the fact that my family saw what I see in her.
When Phillip and I first found out she had picked us we were really planning on doing a semi-open adoption. Brittany told us that she really wanted an open one and to pray about it. All up until our first meeting with her we were so nervous about the openness. But then once we met her... we both felt it was going to be no big deal at all. On the way home from the first meeting I was calling my sisters and mom and told them that we liked her and felt comfortable about having it being open. But I kept saying she'll be able to see the baby but probaby not be at the birthday parties or family events. After meeting her the second time and seeing her with all of our family, my thoughts changed again. I almost want her to be able to come to the parties. Brittany has told us that she wants us to know the reason for the openness is not to be able to parent the baby when she sees him but just to be able to see him and see that he is happy. After hearing that and getting to know her, Phillip and I really will feel comfortable if she does come to a family event. My sisters said the same thing to me. So it feels good!!
So anyways... are meeting again in Orlando this coming Monday for dinner. So hopefully as you already are, just keep praying for everything! We are so excited and I honestly think I can say 100% that this adoption is going to go through!!! PRAISE GOD!!!!
The only thing I am so mad about that night is that I brought my camera and did not take one picture! Shoot me now!
So now onto more details of the dinner. Brittany (one of the social workers) got there a little earlier which was good because we could all ask her some questions about the night. One of the questions I asked her was, "What is tonight going to be like and is this pretty common?" Her response, "I have no idea and I've never been to one of these." Well that made us all a little nervous!! But she said that this was great that we were doing this and I was thankful because this whole process that Phillip and I are going through is such a huge part in our life and our families never really had met anyone who has been involved with it.
When Kelsey and her dad came, the kids were all playing in the front yard and all the adults were sitting on the porch talking. Brittany and I walked out to her car and walked up with them and all the introductions started. We sat outside for about an hour and talked. After a couple mins of talking Mikey and Cason had ran outside from the play room and as soon as Mikey went outside he ran up to Kelsey and said, "Hi Kelsey!!!!" and gave her a huge hug. And then ran off!! (I was so excited that he had done that all on his own!!) Kristy and Kelly were swinging on the swing holding Declan and Tripp and then Kelsey, me, and Brittany sat in the chairs closest to them. We talked all about her ride here and then about how she is feeling. At one point, we were talking about her doctors appointment and Brittany asked Kelsey, "Did they say how big they think Lane will be?" Well right when she said that is was like time stopped for me. I couldn't believe she called the baby Lane. In my head I was thinking what is Kelsey going to say? Is it ok she just called him that? Well right after she asked that I looked at Kelsey and she just smiled and said he was going to be average. After my heart when back in rythym I couldn't stop smiling at the fact that even though Kelsey is the one pregnant, that whole time we had been talking about my baby!!!! I loved that feeling!!
We all went inside and had dinner. My dad grilled chicken (which was so AMAZING) and we had so many sides that were melt in your mouth good thanks to my mom, sisters, my mother in law, my father in law (who makes the best homemade ceasar salad), and Phillip's grandma. The rest of the night we just told stories. I asked Kelsey what she was like when she was little and her dad said she was good! It was so nice just to be able to talk to her... not about the adoption but just to get to know her.
While a lot of us were talking around the table, Tracy, ~ (who I forgot to mention. She is the counselor that Kelsey has been meeting with. And long story short, her daughter placed her baby up for adoption through Bethany several years ago.) ~ was in the kitchen talking to my parents and Phillip's mom about open adoptions. I am not sure of all that was said but I am so thankful that she was able to talk to them about it. They have only heard what we have told them. It is nice to hear about something from someone who has been through it.
One thing that I was a little nervous about was the fact that my sisters would be there with their adorable baby boys. I was nervous because I wasn't sure if that was going to make her think about her having a baby. But it ended up being nothing like that... or at least it didn't seem like it. She talked about Declan and Tripp but it didnt' seem difficult for her. I pray that is wasn't.
It was really cool when we were saying goodbye. Kelsey, her dad, Brittany, Phillip and I were all standing out by their car and Brittany ended up saying that Kelsey had mentioned to her about meeting again before the baby. I was so happy when I heard that because I actually had wanted to meet again too but didn't want to sound overbearing. I told her that and Kelsey said, "You can't. You couldn't be overbearing." It is so great that we get along!
My family all hugged them bye and as Kelly was hugging her bye she said, "You already feel like part of the family!" (Later on that night she asked if it was ok to say that!!) I loved that she said that. And I know it had to make Kelsey's day by her saying that. What is great about it is the fact that she does already feel like part of our family. None of us could believe how well she just fit in. When everyone was gone my dad made a comment saying, "I looked in there while everyone was talking at the table and she just fit in." I love the fact that my family saw what I see in her.
When Phillip and I first found out she had picked us we were really planning on doing a semi-open adoption. Brittany told us that she really wanted an open one and to pray about it. All up until our first meeting with her we were so nervous about the openness. But then once we met her... we both felt it was going to be no big deal at all. On the way home from the first meeting I was calling my sisters and mom and told them that we liked her and felt comfortable about having it being open. But I kept saying she'll be able to see the baby but probaby not be at the birthday parties or family events. After meeting her the second time and seeing her with all of our family, my thoughts changed again. I almost want her to be able to come to the parties. Brittany has told us that she wants us to know the reason for the openness is not to be able to parent the baby when she sees him but just to be able to see him and see that he is happy. After hearing that and getting to know her, Phillip and I really will feel comfortable if she does come to a family event. My sisters said the same thing to me. So it feels good!!
So anyways... are meeting again in Orlando this coming Monday for dinner. So hopefully as you already are, just keep praying for everything! We are so excited and I honestly think I can say 100% that this adoption is going to go through!!! PRAISE GOD!!!!
The only thing I am so mad about that night is that I brought my camera and did not take one picture! Shoot me now!
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